There is only one way to bring your self-esteem up to the level that it should be up to. That one way begins with you and specifically with your mind. You need to retrain your mind. And the way to transform your mind is in four keys to high self-esteem. The four keys are: listening, hearing, paying attention, and repeating.
Listen only to good, positive remarks that bring you up, lift your spirits. Practice selective listening in your life to protect yourself from people who insist on trying to bring you down. The moment that you hear something negative in the way of name-calling, insulting or cursing at you, stop listening right away. Replace those negative words with thoughts of your own that will bring you up. Hear a put-down? Ignore it immediately. Lean and know that most times when someone puts you down, then his following remarks are also going to be negative and not worthy of your ears. So, stop listening. Listen to good people. Listen to Wayne W. Dyer tapes. Listen to positive books-on-tape. Listen to positive affirmations. One of the best tapes you can listen to is the Eric Copage tapes called, Black Pearls . I heard the cassette and then reached for the book at a later time during the month. It is a wonderful book but even more wonderful cassette or cd. Keep on listening.
When you are around someone who constantly badgers and insults you, next time you see that person, put your headphones into your ears and listen to something positive instead. If or when the person questions your headphones, simply state that once they stop verbally abusing you, then you will take your headphones out of your ears. (If you can, just walk away, but if you are in a place where you cannot walk away safely, just tell them that you are listening to music.
Pay full attention to those who will bring your spirits up. Pay attention and listen attentively as long as there are no curses, or put-downs. Keep paying attention.
Repeat steps one, two and three over and over again while you are out in public so that your mind, brain, ears and eyes takes in only the wonderful things that you want to remember. Repeat over and over that you are a good person and that you will be successful at whatever you try to accomplish. Keep repeating these steps and keep repeating your affirmations to yourself.
There are many other ways to bring your self-esteem up if you want to. Be with positive people. If you have a friend who is always saying nasty things to you or putting you down constantly, just plan to spend more time with your other friends or even with yourself. One of the best books I read to help me be more confident was a book called,The Four Agreements, by Miguel Ruiz. Read books by Fred Rogers and read books by Og Mandino. Read the series of books published by Suze Ormann.
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