To you, who might have accomplished this already, congratulations! To you, who has no clue how to arrive exactly where you want to be, do not worry, you are going in the right direction. And to you, who has no clue what I am speaking of, don’t worry, time will pass and eventually, you too will jump on the bandwagon that is heading up the highway to being you!
MOLDING ISN’T ABOUT WOODWORK:
When society molds a human being into what society needs and wants, that human being begins to become very unhappy. That human’s spirit, body, health and emotional well-being sprouts holes, holes deep in the spirit that damage the chances of that person becoming whole and strong again. Think about it. Babies and children are the most carefree, loving and giving personalities on this planet, until they allow society to begin molding them into people that we see every day, everywhere. Babies and children are limitless in creativity, kindness, and love. They are all like that for a period of time in their lives, in the early stages. How each one develops is individual. If a child or baby is exposed constantly to negative vibrations, negative words and negative experiences, that child withdraws and holds back his creativity and free spirit. Yes, everyone needs to learn rules and regulations for their own safety. However the key to leading a limitless life, the key to living a free spirit life filled with adventure, joy and new possibilities comes in the method of how this child is taught the safety and security lessons.
SAVE YOUR NO!
If you are raising a child today, limit your “no” and limit your negative vibes and you will almost be guaranteed to raise a free spirit, adventurous person who will grow into a no-limit person. Say no only when it is very important and then your child will learn the difference between ordinary and very important events in their lives. Once you can achieve your goal of becoming a no-limit person, then you can be yourself. Once you have been successful in ignoring everything that could or might or would stop you, you are on the road to a successful completely one-hundred percent “you”. What if you are grown already? How do you become you if everyone around you is trying to make you just like them? What if the people around you are trying to make you like everyone else. They want you to follow their example because what they did worked for them and they honestly believe that the same method of living will work for you. Only problem with that is that nothing works for everyone. You can take some good examples by watching people. Watch what successful people do. But do not follow their example unless your heart, mind and spirit tell you that this is the way that you should go. It doesn’t matter how many thousands of people were successful doing such and such. That such and such just might not be the road that you need to take. So be you.
Just be you. Stop doing everything that society is pressuring you to do and ask your heart, mind and soul what you need to do. Pray about it and God will send the answers to you. And your goal and your job is not to be too shocked at what the answers for you are if these answers are very different than what everyone else is doing. Just be you.
So, how do you be you? What if you do not even know whom you are? What then? Where do you begin?
You begin here: Think about what makes you happy. Think about what your passion is. Think about what always makes you feel good and feel successful. Remember the dreams and the goals that you had? What happened to them? Where did they go to? Begin here. Promise yourself that today, you will be yourself. You will be one hundred percent yourself.
GOLF OR MUSIC?
The promise that you make to yourself is the beginning of your true journey. If you have spent your whole life studying to be a doctor and studying health and living and working in the health field and yet you have always wanted to do something with music. Today is the day that you need to do something musical. I am not telling you to quit your doctor’s job but I am telling you to go and make music today! Yes, today! Find a way to be musical today even if it is only to go out and see a Broadway play. Go to a music store and listen to the people that are making music in there; speak with the sales people there about music. Take up a musical hobby. Is the smile back on your face? yet? Now you have the idea. Here you are a doctor, and perhaps you play golf because that is what the other doctors do, but in your heart, mind and spirit, you yearn to do something musical but you never seem to have the time. Do something musical today. This is you becoming you. This is you, being yourself.
That is just one example. Put yourself in that story and find out and know what your heart’s desire is to do and then go do it now. Take one single step towards your goal of becoming fully you. Now, you have it. You understand. And you are on the way to becoming fully you.
SURGERY:
What about you? Considering gastric bypass surgery? Why on earth? If you are considering gastric bypass surgery because society says that people need to be thin, then you are not being you. Consider this. After your surgery you probably will not be able to eat anything but liquids or baby food or soft food for almost a year or more (sometimes that happens). You probably might have serious side effects during or after the surgery. I know of three people who almost lost their lives right on the operating table during that surgery. Why not just be you? Why not try to eat those soft foods now–and wait. Do not have the surgery. Eat the way you would have to eat as if you had the surgery, but don’t have the surgery. (I am not stating that everyone should not have the surgery. For some it is medically necessary surgery, but for the most part, the majority of people that have this operation could have done without it. Ask your doctor directly, “Doctor, do I really medically need this operation?” See what your doctor says. Go for a second opinion if you have doubts. But just be yourself. Don’t be pressured into an operation just because you think that you look too heavy or even just because you are too heavy. Do not let society pressure you into any operation that you do not need. Your doctor should know if you need the operation or not. Ask for his honest opinion. Then decide for youself. That is being you.
ART?
Are you the child who painted all the leaves purple? Are you the one who made Santa Claus’s coat orange? If you are then you had a head start at being yourself. If you keeled to the pressure of society and colored red over Santa’s orange coat, then you had your first lesson of becoming a chameleon in our world. Do not give in. If you are doing something that you know in your heart is exactly YOU, then keep on doing that. Do what makes you happy as long as it does not hurt yourself or others. That is the key to happiness and where we need to put the reigns on happiness. If you are in a position of high responsibility such as taking care of babies in the intensive care unit, and if it would make you happy to leave there before your shift is over so that you can smoke a cigarette, this is not what you should do.
In this case, your happiness or your quest for happiness can harm the babies. So, you learn and distinguish when you can do what makes you happy and when you can not and should not do what makes you happy. That is the key to using our own ability to make ourselves happy, knowing when we should do it and when we have no right to have our own happiness first. Same thing in the case of a brain surgeon who wants to have a bottle of scotch. He is scheduled to do surgery in ten minutes and he feels that it will make him happy if he has a bottle of scotch before he does the surgery. He is not entitled to be happy at that moment and he has no right to try and put his happiness first in this case. If he does that, he will harm the patient and the family and many more people, like the rest of the surgical team. So, true growth and true maturity is knowing when to put your own happiness first and when you need to pause and put your own happiness aside for a while.
The author of this article is not a medical professional or doctor. She offers this piece of writing as an entertainment, informational piece that contains ideas, and suggestions for you to consider. As with all important life decisions, the reader is in charge of all personal and medical decisions and should decide on their own which of the suggestions in this article are appropriate for his or her own life. If you need medical, legal or professional help or advice, the author suggests that you seek the help of professionals in your area or nearby.
True happiness is being yourself without hurting someone else or hurting yourself. And when you reach true happiness you will see that you have finally learned to be yourself.
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